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Stephen Tennant (1906-1987) Lascar, A Story of the Maritime Boulevard (detail)  c.1930s, ink and watercolour on paper, private collection

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‘I’m not desperate,’ I remember saying. It was the first time I’d dared disagree with her. Lara’s eyes remained kind but she turned her head slightly. ‘I didn’t say ‘desperate’. I said ‘vulnerable’. Vulnerability is a capital of sorts if you use it correctly. Just think as if you’ve got an extra few hundred in your bank account for this week only and blow it accordingly. You have to spend it as you can’t save it.’

I was twenty-five the first time everything fell apart for me. My boyfriend, Dominic, broke up with me after five years together and we cut short the lease on the little flat we were renting in West Hampstead. This meant I had to scrabble around for a room to rent in London, a city that now felt vast and radically unfamiliar, even after four years there. read more

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‘I’m not desperate,’ I remember saying. It was the first time I’d dared disagree with her. Lara’s eyes remained kind but she turned her head slightly. ‘I didn’t say ‘desperate’. I said ‘vulnerable’. Vulnerability is a capital of sorts if you use it correctly. Just think as if you’ve got an extra few hundred in your bank account for this week only and blow it accordingly. You have to spend it as you can’t save it.’

I was twenty-five the first time everything fell apart for me. My boyfriend, Dominic, broke up with me after five years together and we cut short the lease on the little flat we were renting in West Hampstead. This meant I had to scrabble around for a room to rent in London, a city that now felt vast and radically unfamiliar, even after four years there. read more

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We Wrote in Symbols: Love and Lust by Arab Women Writers

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The first ever English-language anthology of writings on love and lust by Arab women

For anyone whose exposure to Arabic literature begins and ends with a child-friendly edition of Alf Layla wa Layla, in English 1000 Nights and a Night or The Arabian Nights, it will come as a surprise to hear that there is an ancient, honourable and celebrated – and just as often decried – tradition of erotic writing in Arabic. Further, while the existence of erotica in Arabic sinks in, we might add at this point the additional fact that many exponents of the art form are women. Surprised? read more

Love & Sex

Invisible (Wo)Man

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Midlife is a transition point, the antechamber between youth and old age, where it feels more upsetting to close the doors of our past than exciting to open the ones ahead. Let's shed those fears.

I remained friends for a time with a man who broke up with me after confessing his Amy Adams obsession and desire for a petite ingenue. I was ultimately relieved, as I’m built like a discus thrower and he like an Elf on the Shelf. Being naked with him felt a bit creepy, as though he hadn’t quite reached the age of consent. read more

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Henry Monnier (1799 – 1877) A Group of Erotic Miniatures

Henry Bonaventure Monnier, artist and playwright, was born 7 June 1799. After studying at the Lycée Bonaparte, he frequented the workshops of the neo-classical artists Anne-Louis Girodet-Trioson and Baron AntoineJean Gros. Aged just 23, Monnier  went to live in London, returning to Paris five years later where he started to encounter and befriend a glittering cast of authors and painters of the time: Alexandre Dumas, Théophile Gautier, Stendhal, Eugène Sue, Prosper Mérimée, Eugène Scribe, Eugène Delacroix, Louis Boulanger and Honoré de Balzac. read more

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History Of Pleasure

Respectable Women Don’t Wear Pants

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Easy access for intimacies or 'une toilette intime'?

Nowadays, not wearing underpants is a statement. It’s an act of seduction or daring or extreme forgetfulness. Going commando is whispered and giggled about. It’s funny and possibly sexy and definitely out of the ordinary. However, in the 18th century, respectable women didn’t wear pants, only whores did. read more

The bra that Marilyn Monroe wore in Some Like It Hot sold for $14,000.