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A VERY HAPPY 2022 TO ALL OUR READERS!

Danaë by Gustav Klimt  (detail)

What’s New

Anal-ogies

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Anal play can be a leveler between the sexes, a space where we shed our armor, reverse power dynamics, and explore our capabilities as sexual beings

I emailed a sex writer friend not long ago to ask what she thought of the newfangled hands-free clitoral stimulators. “Are they actually effective at making you cum while you’re getting fucked?” The answer was they are hit or miss and completely user dependent, which was the answer I didn’t want because I’m still looking for the effortless PIV orgasm. Then she signed off by saying, “I’ve started having anal orgasms which is something I want to explore more.” I suffered an immediate sense of sex writer imposter syndrome, having not known it was possible for a woman to have an orgasm from inside her butt. read more

Fiction

The Stranger In Me

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A ménage à trois produces strange undercurrents

I open a door to an apartment I know well, pretending I don’t know it at all. Her petite frame stands in the middle of the lounge, looking unsure, squeezing a glass of sparkling champagne so hard, she’s at risk of crushing it in her palm. read more

Reviews

Moggies

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Show me your felis catus

Cats. Don’t you just love ‘em? Well no, actually, I don’t. I don’t mind them and I’m happy to stroke any feline that sidles up to me, affectionately rubbing its head against my calf, purring its head off and arching its back. But I’m not taken in by this love-bombing. read more

Love & Sex

Anal-ogies

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Anal play can be a leveler between the sexes, a space where we shed our armor, reverse power dynamics, and explore our capabilities as sexual beings

I emailed a sex writer friend not long ago to ask what she thought of the newfangled hands-free clitoral stimulators. “Are they actually effective at making you cum while you’re getting fucked?” The answer was they are hit or miss and completely user dependent, which was the answer I didn’t want because I’m still looking for the effortless PIV orgasm. Then she signed off by saying, “I’ve started having anal orgasms which is something I want to explore more.” I suffered an immediate sense of sex writer imposter syndrome, having not known it was possible for a woman to have an orgasm from inside her butt. read more

Galleries

Henry Monnier (1799 – 1877) A Group of Erotic Miniatures

Henry Bonaventure Monnier, artist and playwright, was born 7 June 1799. After studying at the Lycée Bonaparte, he frequented the workshops of the neo-classical artists Anne-Louis Girodet-Trioson and Baron AntoineJean Gros. Aged just 23, Monnier  went to live in London, returning to Paris five years later where he started to encounter and befriend a glittering cast of authors and painters of the time: Alexandre Dumas, Théophile Gautier, Stendhal, Eugène Sue, Prosper Mérimée, Eugène Scribe, Eugène Delacroix, Louis Boulanger and Honoré de Balzac. read more

Articles

In the City of Fury

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One of the great things about living in Buenos Aires is that there’s invariably a Freudian psychologist sitting at your table, waiting to pounce.

Unlike everybody else I know in Buenos Aires, my friend Estela is a faithful vegetarian. She gave up eating meat a few years ago, which is not an easy thing to do in Argentina, a country in which the average person consumes 150 pounds of beef a year—roughly two servings per day. read more

History Of Pleasure

Respectable Women Don’t Wear Pants

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Easy access for intimacies or 'une toilette intime'?

Nowadays, not wearing underpants is a statement. It’s an act of seduction or daring or extreme forgetfulness. Going commando is whispered and giggled about. It’s funny and possibly sexy and definitely out of the ordinary. However, in the 18th century, respectable women didn’t wear pants, only whores did. read more

For every ten condoms sold, four are bought by a woman.

For every ten condoms sold, four are bought by a woman.